Apr
Consistency as a Parent Can Be Challenging
Posted by New Creations
Parents of “at-risk” teens can find themselves in a place where they are exhausted due to being challenged on every front. Not only do parents find themselves being challenged in almost every conversation with their teen but they also find themselves compromising in situations that allow potentially dangerous behaviors for their teen.
I had a teen just today, on his first day with us, say that he wished his dad would do what he said he was going to do. He said his dad would say “I am not going to give you anymore money,” but the next day do just the opposite, giving him some spending money to go to a fast food restaurant after school. The father is a very caring father and wanted to do right by his son, but maybe guilt for not being able to trust the boy got the best of him.
Many well meaning parents get caught in the trap of trying everything under the sun to help their teen to behave properly. This young man was asking for consistency. As a father of a 14 year old female I can understand how this father felt. The daily or situational struggles of doing what is best for the growth of your teen can become taxing.
New Creations Boarding School has seen literally thousands of teens cross the threshold. Sending your teen to New Creations will give you a well needed rest and afford your family the opportunity of a restored sense of normalcy. The separation will allow your student time away from the associations and environment that are most likely a big part of the problem. During the stay we will work with you to help you understand how to better deal with your teen. At the same time, we’ll be working with your teen, assisting them in making better choices that will honor the set boundaries you have or will have in place for their return.
Visit us today at www.newcreationsboardingschool.org for more information or call me at 765-220-0483.
Pastor Jeff Raatz
Thank you! This is exactly what I needed. I find myself making “threats” to my sons all the time but then never really following through. I try to enforce discipline but it’s mostly just words. I love them to death but can’t ever get them to obey. Consistency is definitely a huge weakness in my parenting. Thank you for helping show me where I’m going the wrong way.
I readily agree with Stephanie. You really touched on a sensitive nerve here. I’m full of words around my kids but always shirk when it comes to following through. I say one thing but then spin around and do the complete opposite. I really struggle with being consistent.